THE SHOW
Eli Finkel is a social psychology professor who studies interpersonal attraction, marriage, conflict resolution, and how our social relationships influence our goal achievement. Our conversation centers on his brilliant book, The All or Nothing Marriage, and what he’s learned about modern marriages and what makes them work.
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THE GUEST
ELI FINKEL | Eli Finkel is a professor at Northwestern University, where he has appointments in the psychology department and the Kellogg School of Management. In his role as director of Northwestern’s Relationships and Motivation Lab (RAMLAB), he has published 130+ scientific papers and is a regular contributor to the Op-Ed page of The New York Times. His research, which is supported by the National Science Foundation and the National Institutes of Health, has been honored with the Daniel M. Wegner Theoretical Innovation Prize. The Economist has identified him as “one of the leading lights in the realm of relationship psychology.”
TOPICS COVERED
-Eli’s path into social research and relationship psychology
-Eli’s findings on what makes modern marriages successful
-highlights from Eli’s book, The All or Nothing Marriage
-happiness as an appropriate (or inappropriate) goal for marriage
-managing expectations in relationships and marriage
-how self-actualization plays into healthy marriages
-destiny belief vs growth belief in relationships
-Eli’s “love hacks” birthed from research findings
-and much more!
STUFF MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Eli Finkel online
The All or Nothing Marriage (Eli’s book)
At the Existentialist Cafe (Eli’s book pick)
Lies at the Altar (Lisa Likes)
